Does your partner get angry all the time? Put you down or call you names? Get excessively jealous or controlling? Use the children to manipulate or control you?
It is difficult to understand why someone you love would treat you this way, particularly if things weren’t always so bad between you. An abuser may have many different excuses for his or her behavior, such as stress at work, alcohol, drugs, problems with money or a family history of violence, but these things do not give anyone the right to abuse their partner.
People in abusive relationships may feel anxious to please their partner, afraid to express their opinions, begin to lose their self-esteem, or start missing school or work. They may receive excessive phone calls or text messages from their partners when they are not at home, have frequent and unexplained (or poorly explained) injuries, or lose touch with their family and friends. They may feel trapped, powerless, isolated, or emotionally numb.
If you are concerned that you may be in an unhealthy relationship, please call our confidential crisis line from a phone you know is not being monitored. You can reach us 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.
If you are concerned for a friend or family member, encourage them to get to safety, if they can, and call us at 453-1018 or 1-800-352-1018. Be supportive and non-judgmental, and remember that a decision to leave one’s abuser can be complicated, emotional and even dangerous for the victim. It is rarely as simple as “just leaving” and this does not mean that a victim wants to be abused.